What I need from you is understanding straight from the R& B group Xscape. I feel this is one area that is hardly discussed when a man and a woman just start dating. There are too many assumptions that are formed and not enough verbal communication. Throughout this 4th post of Why do we play games we will touch on the commonly made mistakes of courting, the lack of Understanding!
The definition of understanding is a state of cooperative or mutually tolerant relations between people. When you have a good understanding of things or situations expectations can be set. From past relationship experiences I find being on the same page to be important. Yes, physical attraction is what most of the time that pulls two people together but with understanding the two can go a lot further. Even if it doesn't go that far there aren't hard feelings because an understanding was established.
The most common mistake is that no expectations are set in the beginning. Sitting down with the other person to see where he or she head is. Instead we invest time and energy into someone and not knowing what the other person expects. This happens all the time and can cause a serious conflict. While it is important to ask questions during the 1st couple of conversations time to time. Another common mistake is the failure to ask certain questions. How old are you? Do you have kids? Who do you work for? These are all important and common questions but, there are some that are left out. What are you looking for or, if you are looking to be with anyone right now? Basically I'm saying to be sure you are both on the same page. That's the only way a team can reach the top. Now you have to keep your eyes open because there are those who are out there who will play on your emotions. For instance, an individual who knows when you two begin dating what they want and how they will go about getting it. This goes for both men and women its those that are out with motives. So be sure you take time out and think about how the two of you can be on the same page or have an mutual UNDERSTANDING!
These are my thoughts!
B-Bailey
