Looking at life and all the things that factor in brings this question to mind. I often think of how the world use to be and what it has come to. Now with that being said the heart is fragile like a glass vase. In the hands of the wrong one and its broken. Two, we as humans love to have our cake and eat it to. Which thinking with common sense isn't that how its suppose to be? The black culture we love to "keep it real". Really how real do we really keep it? What about when keeping it real goes wrong? So let's touch on what is the hardest thing to keep real "Relationships". Now for me I like to be open on where I am in life and where I'm trying to go. What I'm looking for and letting this happen naturally. I seems that women aren't patient and they want things when they want it. Not all but quite a few. See most will say they understand how you feel and can accept it in the beginning thinking they can change your mind. Not true!! That feeling is still there even though we maybe closer to one another. Then when you feel its time for it to happen there is a rush. Big mistake to think or feel that way. That is a flaw we have involving relationships. Rushing into things not getting to know one another or still having a sercet life behind the scenes. Deceivers and liars always form but if God isn't in the relationship how could be real? If the relationship is built off of what you buy for someone verse the mental aspect how can it survive? It won't because when hard times hit there is no mental stability just money and sex. Look the divorce rate is too high and money can't buy you love. My parents have been together for over 40 years I see the struggle and the love. I see how the hard times hit but it still survives. What is love? Do you believe in it? I do just learn from past encounters because experience is the mother of knowledge.
S/O to my lil sis Javetta Allen Mercadel she got me started on this and she is a dope writer. Check her out she's deep!!
So you really want to go there Mr. Bailey? I believe people play games for two reasons. One, they don't want to hurt the other person involved or they don't want to be hurt and two, they themselves are unsure of what it really is that they are looking for in a mate. You hit on some very true issues. Women tend to accept and or deal with certain characteristics in a man that they aren't truly "down" with in order to get their foot in the door. We are brought up and taught to believe in fairy tales, when in reality they don't exist. We find a guy that in the beginning treats us like the fairy tale and we accept whatever "faults" he may have thinking that as we grow together he will compromise and we will live "happily ever after." The fairy tales fail to mention what happens when "life" happens and so we are finding ourselves in situations that we were ill-equipped to deal with in the first place...( sorry for rambling)
ReplyDeleteBailey,
ReplyDeleteYou said, "the heart is fragile like a glass vase. In the hands of the wrong one and its broken...we as humans love to have our cake and eat it too."
Truer words have never been spoken! There is a reason that the Scriptures teach us (in Proverbs 4:23) "above all things, guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life." The heart is very fragile but it is imperative that we be responsible for our own heart by placing it in God's hands. I wouldn't recommend trusting ANYONE else with your heart...and this is coming from the wisdom of a woman who has enjoyed a WONDERFUL 7 years of marriage. The key is to trust God with your heart...when you do that you pick mate who RESPECTS GOD and therefore RESPECTS LOVE too much to trample over the place it resides (the heart). Don't get me started..I can on and on and on with this subject...
Peace